The ONLY way to bust insecurity and the loneliness that accompanies it: a girl's guide

"I really don't know if someone will love me for who I am," remarks my friend. "I'm not saying that this counts for all people - other people will find someone special, but I'm not so sure about me."

"Don't you think all girls feel this way before they meet someone who does?"

A message to all our insecurity chips
and the a-hole who put it there.

Yup. Most of us do. It's like some evil villain put a chip of insecurity into all the newborn babies at the hospital, when the nurses weren't looking (or perhaps it was a evil nurse).

DISCLAIMER: This is not a piece of All-girls-need-and-want-a-man propaganda. All girls definitely don't want to get married and no girl NEEDS a man. 

Now that we're clear, let's get to the very murky subject of dumb emotions.

Why do we feel like we need someone to validate all that we admire in our selves? Whoever gave us the idea that it needed proving? 

And why oh why do we always think we're the only one's that hit constant deep self-doubting lows?

Loneliness is so illogical. EVERY girl you have ever met (and every one you haven't) 

feel like insecure at times. A gazillion times. The ONLY way to beat the loneliness is to admit that you feel insecure and that all those around you do too and that it's the chips fault, not yours. 

FACT: We were made the way we are for a reason. Just because others don't approve of it, takes nothing away from that fact. 

The ONLY way to beat the insecurity is to just accept the fact that you're perfect. Yup, you read me right. 

You are perfect and you better believe it OR you will light up that insecurity chip of yours all day long just to feel crap, because some baddy out there really likes it that you don't like yourself.

6 Insanely decent reasons to like yourself

1. Your SOUL mate (if you even want one) will know exactly what he's looking for: you. If you change yourself you'll mess with the whole chemistry of you two. Don't. 

2. You were put on this earth to do some insane stuff. Hating yourself is the most effective way to stop yourself from doing these incredible things. Cook up a decent meal of patience, liking yourself and peace for every day and you're set for all the success in your life. 

3. A-holes are abundant. You better like yourself or you're just melt like a marshmallow when you get too close to hot a-holes. And nobody likes a mushy mess of a girl who doesn't believe in herself. Not even you. 

3. Feeling shitty about yourself is just shitty. It adds nothing to your life. It will eventually subtract everything. 

4. If you like yourself you'll have the backbone to accept and use constructive criticism. You'll get the fact that you don't ever have to change who you are, regardless if you change the way you do certain things or if you try out new things. There's a difference between what you do or don't do, what you believe and who you were made to be. The latter should NEVER change. 

5. People are all just quilts of pain, loss and insecurities. Sometimes they can't appreciate people even if their beauty flashes through them like party lights up in da club - they're usually too busy worrying about their own insecurities. So don't you dare be one of those conceited people. So stop not liking who you are, like 5 min ago.

6. You are perfect silly.

Love this pic (by David Hayward). I like Jesus, because he's different than people say. He likes us just AS we are. Fullstop.